What I learned from being in a relationship

So Michelle and I broke up. Old news by now, but still many people don’t know…checking Facebook seems like a good checking method. It’s strange how some people don’t put their relationship status up…which means it complicated or ashamed of their girlfriend. I used to be that person. I used to be ashamed of my gf because she wasn’t Asian. Sorry for saying that, but it’s true. I enjoyed being with her very much and made it FB official.

So after the break up, what did I learn?

• It’s much easier to date someone of your own race, but that’s not always possible. You were fated to meet and have that little adventure with each other. In essence,it just happened and went very naturally. However, I don’t plan on dating Hispanic girls just for simplicity, but you never know what fate brings. I didn’t plan on dating a Hispanic before I got together with her and look what happened; I enjoyed it.
• Appreciate and love your girl every moment you are with her. Do something romantic, random flowers, gifts (occasionally and it doesn’t have to be expensive), tell her you love her, compliment her, massages, have adventures, be assertive, take lots of pictures as a memory, give her your 110%. You never know when they could disappear from your life. Live without regrets. Take your time and enjoy being with her.
• Communicate. Make sure you communicate very well. Talk a lot about important things..about you and her. Know her basics (hobbies, music, foods, quirks, study habits, family relationship, etc). Google some relationship questions and talk about those. It will help ensure that you are meant to be together and to ensure communication. You must pay attention to what she says and remember it! Don’t be like me and forgetting what she doesn’t eat. Pay attention to her.
• Hang out with other people. As bf/gf you want to hang out 24/7, but you still need friends and networks. Give each other some space every now and then. And if you break up, it won’t be as bad because you have someone to hang out with instead. Win-win.
• Make her happy (physically, emotionally), especially if they make you happy. It’s a mutual relationship. Keep that in mind. If you don’t know how, ask or research it. Compromise to make her happy.
• Always respect your girl. And don’t make her do things that will hurt her unless it’s for her own good.
• Be confident. Stand up for your girl. Make her feel loved. Introduce her to your family if appropriate. Spoil her, just a little.
• Women always think about the future of the relationship no matter what you say. Be prepared.
• If you do break up and you still want her back, your natural reactions might not be the best way to get her back. Google it before you act might be a better choice.

I’ll add more as they come up.

Also, I’m going to have fun. I’m not going to let monetary conditions to get in my way. I’m young and still in college. Now is the time to have fun before I have to work all day. If it doesn’t effect academics too much, I’ll go.